The Art Of Overcoming Shyness

Shyness is the feeling which you have experienced in some way or another in your life. You may know that when you were shy you lost all your reasoning ability and couldn't think what to say or do. It is possible you might think that it's inherited or biological, that you possessed it from your father and from your forefathers. But this is actually a false notion which people have in their minds when they think of shyness. The truth is very different from what people admit it is.

The Origins Of Shyness

Shyness is experienced from the lack of compatibility of the inner selves. It is the feeling that you are not good enough for others. That you might spoil the whole conversation by uttering something absurd or considering yourself as just an unnecessary piece of the pie. Shy people are not clumsy around everyone, but they only act such around those who seem to have the most contrary features or qualities from them ranging from race, religion, beliefs or habits.
The reason behind this thinking is that you never quite actually see the true nature of the people you are in contact in the beginning. You only see what they want you to see and judge them by that abridged knowledge. You are under the misguided impression that the girl from your class might not like you because you are ugly or insecure while she is the most beautiful person on the planet. This justification can separate you farther from them rather than bringing you closer. It can alienate two people as if they are from two different worlds. It can be acknowledged as the "Parochial World" of the shy person.

The Parochial World

This concept of reasoning can eliminate the similar interests which you both share together but which you don't know yet. Both of you may share similar interests in sports and a common appetite of conversing about romance movies. When in contact with the person from the Parochial World, the shy person allows their minds to be governed by their differences and dissimilarities.

Ways to overcome shyness

1. Accept that you are shy and that it is a good thing

The first step to overcoming your shyness around people is to accept and admit that you are shy. Believe that it is not a bad thing, that by being shy you are not hurting the other person or making him/her uncomfortable. Most people are shy and self-conscious about themselves and it is absolutely fine.

2. Think positive thoughts.

When you feel that you are being dominated by shyness, think positively and speak to yourself by giving pep-talks such as "I'm a great person, I know that everybody are happy to see me."

3. Avoid bullies and friends who don't respect you.

Keeping yourself in the company of negative and disrespectful friends would only increase your demureness. Try to avoid them as much as possible.

4. Know your weaknesses and insecurities.

Being aware of your weaknesses and insecurities would enable you to keep your cool when shyness kicks in. Your weaknesses or insecurities may include money, lack of confidence or skin problems. Do whatever you can to improve your weaknesses and if you can't embrace them.

5. Get out of your comfort zone

In order to overcome your shyness, you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone daily. Do things that you normally wouldn't do and which  makes you scared.