Breakups

Breakups are hard. Letting go of someone you hold very dear to your heart, is hard. It hurts so much that you can’t contain it, suppress it. You think it would be better to have physical wounds or fractures, just because the physical pain is easy to endure than emotional pain. Longer the relationship, it only gets harder and harder to move on.

Move on, not on a way to absolutely forget about the person, or develop hatred for that person, the person who you knew inside out. It will not end your suffering, it will only make you feel hollow inside, make you feel empty. Trust me, you won’t ever forget. But just accepting the fact that it all happened for a reason. Universe has bigger plans for us. You might not know the reason in the short run, but you will figure it out. Accept the fact that they are gone, and the bond you had, will never be the same again. Reminisce the bitter-sweet memories. Breakups damages you. There will be nights where it will be hard for you to sleep, and days where you just won’t have the energy to get up in the morning. Everything that reminds you of them, will leave you teary-eyed. It will feel like bones cracking inside your skin. I cannot emphasize on how much it’ll hurt, but trust me, you will get over it.

Once you get hurt, you get scared to get attached again. You start believing that everyone you got close to, will end up hurting you. But honey, that’s not true. Sure you had some bad experiences, sure you got shot down badly, but who doesn’t. You will get up again, because you’re titanium! (see what I did there?!) Be thankful, for every heartbreak, for they were all planned. They come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you and then leave. Just like that. Their purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your own addictions and obstacles, and break your heart, so that new light can get in, make you so desperate and eager, that you change your life around, transform yourself. And the best part is that you actually do. Each person that comes into your life has some purpose. As an individual, you keep growing, you change, you become a better version of yourself.

This is the point where you believe that you will never be able to love again, or that you will never love someone with the same intensity. Maybe not right now, because it takes time to heal up the wounds, but you will love again, eventually, when someone comes along who does not take your breath away, but provides you with more fresh air to breathe in. Love is a beautiful feeling, don’t blame it. Hurting yourself is not an option either, it will only do more harm than good. Take it from an experienced person, honey, you will sleep again, you will stop crying and you will laugh your heart out again. It is all gonna be okay.

But above all, don’t ever lose hope.